Daf Yomi Kesubos 3
I was chatting with one of our new Dafyomians who told me that he used to set his alarm for six o’clock, so that he could be at Shacharis for seven. But he found himself continuously hitting the snooze button day in day out. Now that he was coming to our new Daf Yomi shiur (class), he set the alarm for five and jumped out of bed!
“It’s a miracle,” he tells me, “suddenly I’m able to get up no problem!”
The Mishnah states: A young maiden is wed on a Wednesday.
The Beraisa teaches: Why? The Sages were concerned for the dignity of Jewish maidens, such that a man should toil in preparation for the wedding for three days – Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and then marry her on the Wednesday. In times of danger, they began the custom of marrying on Tuesday and the Sages did not protest. On Monday, however, one should not marry. But if they were under duress, it is permitted.
The Gemara asks: What is meant by duress?
Rava answers: Such as armies passing through town that may maraud the wedding.
The Gemara inquires: What is the case? If they are entering and moving on, just delay the wedding.
The Gemara answers: We must be dealing with invaders that are here to stay.
Friends, the enemy wants to maraud the wedding and he’s here to stay. The only way you can outsmart him is to make the wedding early, before he even gets into town. That’s why getting up at five instead of six you suddenly feel refreshed. Because you’ve confused the yetzer hara – your bad inclination. He’s all ready to hit that snooze button at six. But before he realizes what’s going on, you’re already on your way to the shiur!
That’s the only way to be victorious over him. You need to beat him not at the game, but to the game. You’ve already won before he even got there.
Let’s say you’re struggling with dealing with a difficult person. The yetzer hara tells you to shut that person out of your life. Instead of listening to him and avoiding the problem, send them a beautiful mishloach manot (Purim basket) this year! The enemy is not going anywhere, so you might as well beat him to the feast!
The yetzer hara is not just passing through your life. Once he arrives, he’s here for the long haul. Make sure you make it to the feast before he does. May you merit outwitting the enemy every time by always being the first to the party!